This is a sneak peak from my free ebook Radical Sex which releases in just a few days! It is a small selection from chapter 1 – The Condom Incident.

…. Now before we explore what that looks like, we need to pause and acknowledge that this sex-as-bad theology has all kinds of modern expressions (mostly found in traditional religious environments and conservative contexts) including being the modus operandi for many Christians today, whether they mean for it to be or not. Christian parents, leaders, media and pastors choose to talk about sex in almost exclusively negative terms, especially with youth and young adults. The danger of this, beyond the fact that it’s not biblical is that it’s psychologically damaging.

People go from a whole life of ‘sex is disgusting, and wrong,’ in their teen years to ‘now you’re married, go and enjoy it!’ with nothing in between. It is hard for many to make that shift over night, especially for women, and it comes at a cost. I know people who have been traumatized by sex on their wedding night so much that they went two years without doing it again and needed counseling to get through the trauma. I also meet with lots of young, newly married couples who entered marriage as virgins and who are in my office nine months later saying they don’t know what to do, and that there is no passion or sexual vitality in their marriage at all, which is hard because they thought they would spend the first years of their marriage having sex like rabbits.

So what do we do?…

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